“Being a go-giver, whether it’s in business or in a personal relationship, is never about a scorecard. It’s about adding value to the other person’s life. It’s about acts of generosity that don’t have an expectation of return.” – Ana Gabriel Mann
When John David Mann and friend Bob Burg finished their manuscript for The Go-Giver, John asked his wife Ana to be the first to read it. One of the first things she said was, “Wow, this would make a great book about marriage.” For years, people asked John and Ana what the secret sauce was for their marriage. How did they keep the “newlywed” fire alive after all these years? What helped them adopt a spirit of generosity with each other?
In this episode, John and Ana share that life is really about relationships, and that relationships demand a spirit of generosity. Being a go-giver in a relationship means dropping the scorecard and “transactional” expectations (e.g. Do this for me, and I’ll do that for you). They both explain the importance of asking, “Are we feeding the us?” This means letting go of thoughts around winning, looking for fairness, and keeping track of scorecards in the relationship. Tune in to hear more of their wisdom and how they uncovered what ultimately went into this book.
About Today’s Guests:
John David Mann is the author and co-author of more than 30 books, including four New York Times bestsellers and five national bestsellers. His classic 2008 parable called The Go-Giver (co-authored with his friend, Bob Burg) earn the 2017 Living Now Book Award’s “Evergreen Medal” for its contribution to positive global change. Ana Gabriel Mann earned her M.A. in clinical psychology before going on to serve as an educator, therapist, corporate trainer, speaker, and coach. She currently coaches Go-Giver Marriage clients and leads the Go-Giver Marriage Coaches Training Program, where she trains coaches around the world.
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